Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist: Essential Tools for Improving or Leaving Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships

I was in a very bad place before I discovered Darlene Lancer the author of this book. Not knowing that the reason for this was many years of something called narcissistic abuse. I discovered an article of hers and I emailed her. At this point I was in agony and I did not understand what was happening to me or why. It was the point in time I needed someone to help me the most. She was so kind to talk to me answer questions give advise and offer so many free resources. She quickly became my hero. She made the situation something I can get through where as before it was just to much. Then I ordered this book she wrote. Through this book I got so much I don't no where to start. I got countless answers to questions I was sure I would never get. I learned that I had been trying to fix something that cant be fixed. I learned that there were words for all the things that had been happening to me. A lot of the words I had heard but did not know what they meant. Like Narcissist, Gaslighting and Trauma Bond. And a lot of words I hadn't heard that described what had been happening to me. I learned why the person I loved so much could not stop doing these things to me. For me through this book and the author I received an amount of closure that I didn't believe I would ever get and an amount of closure that I needed for this to be something I can get through. I also learned a lot about myself. None of us are perfect and I learned a lot about myself that I'm excited to work on. I learned how to not ever be abused or hurt like this again. If you love someone or have been abused by someone who is a narcissist you need to read this book. Or if someone you care about is involved with a narcissist you need to read this book. However I believe anyone will benefit greatly by reading this special book written by a special person.

This is an exceptional read filled with easy to understand applications and recommendations for any type of narcissistic interactions or relationships - beyond dating or leaving. I find myself referencing this book time and again, it's so crystal clear and helpful. As a codependent, currently working on becoming more assertive and taking the author's How to Be Assertive webinar.

Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist by Darlene Lancer is a must-read for anyone who has been in a relationship with a narcissist. The book is well-written, informative, and insightful, providing essential tools for improving or leaving a narcissistic and abusive relationship.Lancer draws on her years of experience as a therapist to explain the complex dynamics of narcissistic relationships and provides practical advice on how to identify and cope with a narcissistic partner. She covers topics such as the different types of narcissism, the red flags to watch out for, the impact of narcissistic abuse on your mental health, and the steps you can take to heal and move on.What I particularly appreciated about this book is that it doesn't just focus on leaving the relationship, but also provides guidance for those who choose to stay and try to improve the relationship. Lancer emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and developing a support network, regardless of whether you decide to stay or leave.Overall, Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist is an incredibly valuable resource for anyone who has been in a relationship with a narcissist. It's empowering, validating, and provides concrete tools for healing and moving forward. I highly recommend it to anyone looking to improve their relationship or leave a toxic one behind.

When it comes to helping people understand narcissistic behaviors, Lancer has cracked the code! As the title suggests, she has exhaustively detailed the essential tools necessary to manage narcissistic and abusive relationships - from the cause of narcissism and identifying their behaviors to exposing the codependency link that makes victims vulnerable to this type of insidious abuse. Have you ever wondered why you became a target? Darlene not only explains the why but also how to heal.As a narcissistic abuse coach, I have read many books on this very topic but the way Lancer takes the layperson by the hand through the dating process, the challenges of loving a narcissist, how to communicate with a narcissist if you are unable to leave, to successfully leaving and then healing from the abuse is nothing short of expert.Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist includes so many thought-provoking and helpful lists that prompt the reader to reflect on the relationship itself as it relates to their own historical relationship patterns. I felt like I was in a therapy session as Darlene sat across the room asking pointed questions. Her techniques are revolutionary – I have yet to ever see anything like this in print. It is nothing short of genius!This is a go-to book that I will suggest to all my clients. She didn’t miss a thing. I LOVE IT!!

This is a practical way of dealing with self centered / narcissistic partners. It also gives great information on to deal with your own codependency. Strongly recommended.

Have a daughter I'm have had trouble with for years. Did you know therapists can't give advice anymore? No help at all, so I've resorted to reading. This book helped me see what actually happening, which I couldn't see before. Has helped me realize i can only be so responsible for the actions of others.

This is a necessary tool for dealing with the emotional trauma of a having a close relationship with someone who experiences narcissistic episodes.

I first heard of Darlene Lancer through the Adult Chair podcast (MIchelle Chalfant) and knew I needed the help of Darlene Lancer. First port of call was this book, which grabbed me by both arms and dragged me out of denial. I was finally able to see not just my relationship, but myself for what is real. Whilst this process had me face some uncomfortable and painful truths, it has changed my life in so many ways. It helped me let go of the life I wished that I had and helped me gain clarity and a truth that I had been avoiding for many years. I used this book alongside other books from the same author as well as with support from a therapist.