DIRTY LAUNDRY: Why adults with ADHD are so ashamed and what we can do to help Paperback – January 19, 2023

As an ADHDer, I don't get a lot of reading done. But by golly has this been the first book in a long time (since Chuck Palahniuk's Haunted) that I've not wanted to put down since picking it up. First day of ALL my 'things to do' where I sit on the toilet and couch just head down in a book! Talk about a hyper focus.I can't wait to be done with it so my neurotypical (possibly autistic) hubby can read it as well. Then, I will read this over and over and over.Since he can read something once and get it, while I enjoy rewatching/rereading things to be recaptured by the beauty.As I read from both perspectives, as that empath, I'm in tears! "WHY ARE THEY CRYING" iykyk (if you know you know).This is such a moving read. Not even as a social media follower, but as someone who has ADHD, late into marriage diagnosed, and yet has a husband who has stayed married to me for almost a couple decades.Being married as an ADHDer was so challenging in the beginning, then we found acceptance, but deep down I was still struggling all the time. Then I got dx, and still hadn't realized there were couples out there like us. I feel loneliness like a mofo.This is an amazing read, if you're the spouse of an ADHDer, if You Are the ADHDer, or even if you're trying to learn compassion for your ADHD child. If you can empathize or sympathize, you will understand that this book is a teaching tool to a person for anyone who has ADHD in their (people around you) life.Rox and Richard, you both are loved and understood completely! And we are all still learning about our relationship AND our own individual selves. Much love to the authors.This book is so great, there are no words for me to say how much I appreciate their book, Dirty Laundry!!!Do you know how many pairs of the same sunglasses and eyeglasses I've gone through??? Iykyk.5 stars for airing out your Dirty Laundry as a married couple.Keep on letting the world know there are more like us out there than understood. Truly, THANK YOU!This is a pic of how far I've gotten in the first evening of reading anything! And trust, I've made many attempts on many books... but nothing quite intriguing, heart felt, and relative like this!

This book is amazing- written by two very real and beautiful individuals! This book provides accurate information about ADHD with a compassionate, empathetic, and healing perspective that is unrivaled by most other books on the subject. It creates a space for accurate understanding with equal emphasis on healing the emotional pain that is so often secondary to being neurodivergent in a world dominated by neurotypicals. It speaks to both sides of the neurotypical-neurodivergent continuum, providing a role model for creating harmonious relations among neurodiverse individuals.

This was very emotional to read. Everything I’ve lived through, and in turn, one of my children. There are some good coping strategies, but mostly, it takes away the shame.

I like this couple’s videos, but I honestly wasn’t expecting the book to be very helpful. However, I was very wrong. It’s short and formatted well, and I read it in less than a day.There was so much specific and actionable information also and breaking down the why is probably really helpful for non-ADHD partners. I’ve been diagnosed for less than a year and I’m still learning how exactly ADHD affects me and how I can counteract it and finding a book like this was a gold mine.Reading the perspective of someone with ADHD and a partner that doesn’t have it was super helpful. I thought my partner just wasn’t patient enough because he would always be so hurt when I would make a mistake due to my ADHD, but reading Richard talk about how he reacted before they understood what was truly going on and seeing how patient and supportive he is now gave me so much hope. The fact that he’s able to support Rox enough that she’s consistently done social media and wrote a book is impressive also. I’m just now learning that ADHD is truly a disability and I really needed to read something like this that could give me hope.

I absolutely love love love this book! It has changed my life not only do. I have a better understanding of myself, but others as well. The presentation of this book is easy to read, follow and remember, lol

I am new to the ADHD world and it was a good read and I think it would have been better if I had of read a few other ADHD books first to learn more about the disorder prior to this one.

I have read countless books on ADHD since being diagnosed about 8 years ago. While this book is not the most “scientific”, it was the most profound and helpful for me emotionally. You won’t find typical advice in here (you know the advice all of us have tried and failed at again and again) - this book is more about connecting with and accepting yourself. There is practical advice in working WITH your ADHD and good advice for partners. The portion for partners is wonderfully geared towards reframing your mindset towards your ADHDer along with small shifts in the way you approach/help them.I found myself connecting immediately with Roxy’s stories, having been to the extreme ends of untreated ADHD myself. I felt like I wasn’t alone. Sometimes in the modern day of TikTok, ADHD can be presented as just quirky or cute. Rarely do people talk about what it’s like to be an addict, to get evicted, to ruin relationships, and all the true darkness that can be the result of undiagnosed ADHD. But Roxy does this with honesty and humor.The only sort of “negative” I would say is that the chapter on finances can be disheartening for those of us who do not have a partner that works in the banking industry or is good with finances. The chapter does give some good emotional support points, but it was the one chapter in which I could not connect with the idea of successfully conquering that area of my life.Otherwise this book is amazing and a must read for ADHDers and their partners or family. I also gifted it to my teenage daughter who has ADHD and is getting ready to graduate high school. I think it’s vital for her to understand what a good and healthy partnership looks like when it comes to ADHD.

Muy sencillo de leer, las personas con TDAH podemos sentirnos identificados con la experiencia de Rox. Nos da tranquilidad saber que no estamos solos y que alguien sin una neurodivergencia puede llegar a entendernos. Lo recomiendo 100%

I love how right off the bat we get a carte blanche for what part of the book we read, or not read, and it made it very comfortable for me as I have always struggled with getting into something lest I am on a bus sitting comfortably (don't ask).These days my bus rides are fewer and thus, this is my go to read on the bus. It certainly is organized in a manner that makes it easier to go through and the content is interesting, eye-opening, and insightful. A must read for non-ADHDers too, to help them understand us, just as much as we have masked to make it look like we understand normies.Thanks for this book Rox and for Rick for showing us, Love, is Possible.

Now i have a word for my gardrobe and know that i dont fail only bcs i have a new favorite game after 2 weeks

I appreciated it!

Really well written for both ADHD and partner. Found them on Instagram and found out the wrote a book.