Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners

Provided amazing insight and was easy to understand. Highly recommend to others!

This book is... difficult to read but very necessary. I was recommended this by my therapist, and needed to understand the background behind such toxic enmeshment between my husband and his mother. I will tell you this... it made things make more sense. It helped me understand a lot. It will aid me in not replicating things like that to my own child(ren). It's just heartbreaking to know that this kind of stuff is REAL and actually does take place. I recommend anyone hurting from being a victim of covert incest OR the spouse of someone who is (even if that person is unaware, which most are!) as it will help clear the lines and put things in a more easily understood explanation. But... you might not enjoy the fact that this covert incest is very hard to break and the victims sometimes do not even know they're a victim, or they may defend their parent.

A lot of information about a topic that is not widely known yet can cause some serious dysfunction in your adult years. This is the book written by the pioneer of this subject that kept getting referenced in all the Internet articles and videos. It's not a how-to guide on how to recover from covert/emotional incest, but if there was a relationship with one of your parents that felt "icky" this could help you identify it.

I'm working on a documentary on how relationships in our formative years affect us as adults, this book is great as a reference/research point to look into one of the many aspects of how relationships with our parents can affect us as future functional adults. I recommend it to anyone - even if they're not researching. It's quite enlightening in many other aspects as well.

I enjoyed reading this book. I believe my husband is a victim of covert incest and became his mother’s surrogate husband at a young age. Based on what I’ve learned about his past and what I witness currently, I saw a lot of him in these stories. I recommended the book to him.

I'm cautious when it comes to subscribing to things like emotional abuse. It seems like no matter what your childhood was like there is going to be some psycho babble about how dysfunctional and damaging it was. They have a diagnosis for everything from highly sensitive to chap stick addiction. However, so many light bulbs came on for me while reading this book! There were so many memories of my life growing up that were shrouded in confusion and this book made them all crystal clear. I was able to articulate my feelings much better to my therapist, and have the general peace of mind that comes with understanding that maybe I'm not the only one. Maybe I'm not that crazy. I also appreciated how it didn't give the impression that mothers are the root of all evil. It simply provided information without casting blame. All in all, it was interesting, informative, and written in a way that was understandable and easy to relate to. I would definitely recommend it!

They always have a good books at a good price. I felt the shipping was a little slow this time coming only one state over. I think they may have exaggerated the condition of the book or this crease happened during shipping. Otherwise I am quite happy with my purchase.

Excellent, excellent book! Eye-opening! And painfully spot-on! Highly recommended read for anyone who is even remotely "daddy's girl" or "mama's boy" -- or "the little man of the house" or "little mommy". Easy to read and very little "psych-speak" so anyone can understand it and learn from it. If you even question your relationship with your family of origin, read this book. It will open your eyes -- either for yourself or your loved ones. If any of this is true for you, therapy is the next best step!

A very helpful book. Every example explained in a very detailed way. It describes all of my relationship problems faced as a child and now as an adult from my family of origin.

This is a fantastic read! If you've ever felt the 'yuck' from a parent or guardian trying to get their emotional needs met through you, this book is for you. It will help you understand why that 'yuck factor' is there and how it's can damage you and hinder your sexuality. I think this book is a great tool to help anyone who's experienced or experiencing this or know someone who has.

Es muy interesante. Me ha gustado mucho leerlo.

This book changed my life. I'd never thought of myself as a survivor of covert incest, until someone picked up on the rage and contempt towards the other parent, and suggested this book. It's easy to read (english is my second) and very well explained. It allowed me to let go of the rage and contempt I was carrying for the incestual parent. I still have a lot to unpack, but I feel like with this book I took my first unburdened step.If you too wonder if something was off and find yourself carrying a lot of hate and contempt towards a parent, even though you know on some level that they do nothing that deserves this level of reject and intensity of emotions, and wonder if something maybe was too close with the other parent, then this book is for you.If you feel you were the caregiver to your parent, his counselor, best friend, his rock, but your needs were never met or even acknowledged, this book is for you.

A topic that is invisible to naked eye yet included in dysfunctional families. This book is very helpful to understand covert incest and the pain one feels as a victim and how to overcome it.