Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy For Dummies

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I have only purchased one Dummies book before ( Sailing ) but the reviews on this sounded very good and I was desperately in need of a book to help not only myself but my partner in our attempts to reconnect and repair the damages from his recent affair. Both of us had read Hold Me Tight , Sue Johnson. While we both saw value in Ms. Johnson's book, it was not something that my partner could get into and as it is more difficult to get most men to read books about emotions and relationships, I wanted to find something he could feel more comfortable with.This book is not just for couples who are trying to recover from an affair but for any couple who finds themselves getting into the same arguments and fights over and over again and are looking to rebuild a connection that feels damaged or changed in a way that is not positive .This Dummies book is easy to read but does not dumb down. The best chapter so far is the one talking about people who tend to pursue their partner in an attempt to maintain the intimacy or resolve issues in relationships and those who tend to withdraw when faced with uncomfortable feelings and intimacy. My partner read this chapter last night and agreed that it is very pertinent to both of us and that it will help both of us in our attempts to understand each other.If that is the only thing my partner gets out of this book, I will be very happy. And it is helping me see that he is not trying to avoid me or is behaving in a cold manner , but that he is acting out of his feelings ( even though he has a difficult time showing any feelings !)I have read 5-6 books over the past 3 months in my attempt to regain some equilibrium after learning about the affair and have found that both this book and Getting Past the Affair, ( Synder, Baucom, Gordon ) are the most helpful so far for both of us in our attempts to rebuild a relationship .I wish that I was a bit more coherent in writing a review but I wanted to at least give some feedback for this book ! Good luck !!!!

This was a book we've all been wanting for, for years! EFT can be a complicated therapy to comprehend, and here - at last - is a book that explains it all in very readable terms, for, . . . . . uh, dummies.No - not dummies so much as those of us who have wanted to be able to understand the model and have a way of explaining it to others. This is a great read- for therapists as well as for all of those couples out there so desiring to have a better, closer, more bonded relationship.Bradley and Furrow do a most excellent job weaving in stories of the couples they've counseled. Example after example bring it all home - it's easy to see yourself, or your friends, or clients on the pages as the chapters unfold.This would be an excellent book for therapists interested in the EFT model, but not yet ready to commit to learning EFT. Also for motivated clients who want to understand more than just communication skills (that no one uses under distress). And for seasoned EFT therapists to share with clients so that they can understand what is really going on under the surface. It's not about the silly things that we all fight about - it's about the emotions underneath driving the crazy patterns we all find ourselves in, from time to time.I couldn't give it a higher recommendation!

The book pages are fine in that they all appear to be present and there is no writing nor marking in the text, as the seller states. The seller failed to mention the bent cover (as though it had been rolled a few times in different directions, making it wavy), and also the bend and slight tear on the top front cover which continued onto the pages through page 119; and the green ink from some other source, also on the front cover. This makes the book fine for my use, but not suitable to give as a gift, unless your recipient doesn't care about aesthetics at all. Personally, i like my books to look nice, and this one will not be out on display. Recommend asking any book seller about the state of the cover, not just the interior pages.

I used some techniques and they worked. I was the only one trying soo...I do think it would help anyone who wants to have a stronger relationship.

I've been a couple therapist for more than 30 years and have been learning and workingwithin the EFT model for 4 years. I've been giving books to couples for all of my practicelife. I have given or recommended this book to every couple in my practice.The response has been consistently enthusiastic, and to hear ENTHUSIASMfrom women and men about a self-help book is a rare thing. I really want to underscorethis: The couples are really using this book.The tone of the book is extremely accessible. It's like a handy tool box to help couples relateto their own and their partner's emotional life and to help them work together on their relationship.Here are some of the things I've heard from those I've given this book,"I can really see the impact I am having on my wife." "I can see how my husbandis hurting in a way I never considered." "The book helped me slow down and lookinto my primary feeling. When I shared with my wife, there was no fight. She wasreceptive. I think this book is really going to help us."I think this is the perfect book for couples. I recommend it to EFT therapists, therapistsinterested in this model, and especially to couples who are looking for a book thatcan truly help them be more connected.

As a couple therapist I recommend this book to all my couples in treatment, and I also found it very helpful to deepen my own understanding of EFT principles.It also works well as a self-help book if you are trying to improve your relationship and if you want to relate to your partner differently.

Helps us to understand ourselves more.

Great!

A new way of looking at adult relationships, make sense what you are feeling and why it is do important

Already, a couple of pages in, this book is helping us. We work through it together and it’s giving us insight.