Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love

I highly recommend this book! I haven't read other attachment theory books, but this one is really resonating with me (I'm halfway through). It is such a practical and compassionate framework. Baum does a great job of explaining where our relationship patterns come from and the need to focus on healing our core wounds to stop repeating the sabotaging, painful survival behaviors we've developed from childhood. She offers a roadmap on how to take steps towards healing from a compassionate, comprehensive, and clear-eyed perspective. This is really reassuring and motivating - we can see how much agency we actually have to shift our experience of life.If you experience not feeling safe in your relationships (and your own self), and want help in owning the work that is yours to do, pick up this book !Also, I initially started listening to this as an audiobook (read by the author), which I definitely recommend as well. Her voice is calm and she reads it in a helpful, deliberately well-paced way. I bought the physical book in order to review and reflect on her insights and exercises.

Anxiously Attached is not just a book. It's a lifeline for anyone navigating the complex landscape of attachment styles and relationships with profound insight and unwavering empathy. Author “Jessica Baum” invites readers on a deeply personal journey into the heart of anxious attachment, illuminating the shadows with understanding and compassion.From the very first page, I found myself drawn into a narrative that felt simultaneously universal and intimately personal. Through vivid anecdotes, relatable scenarios, and poignant reflections, the author gently dismantles the complexities surrounding Anxious attachment replacing judgment with acceptance and self-compassion.What truly sets this book apart is its ability to blend psychological expertise with genuine human connection. Rather than presenting a dry theory or clinical jargon, the author speaks directly to the readers heart offering. Validation and validation to those who may have felt misunderstood or alone in their struggles. One of the books, greatest Strength lies in its practical approach to healing. Rather than simply analyzing the roots of anxious attachment, the author provides a road map for growth, offering actionable strategies and empowering insights to help readers cultivate their healthier. Relationships with themselves and others.But perhaps the most remarkable aspect of Anxiously Attached is its unwavering message of hope. Through every page, the author reminds us that healing is possible, that change is within Reach and our vulnerabilities can ultimately become a source of strength. In conclusion anxiously attached is a masterpiece of empathy, insight, and encouragement. Whether you're grappling with anxious attachment yourself or seeking to understand a loved one’s struggles, this book offers solace, guidance, and, above all, the reassurance that you are not alone. On this journey toward healing and Selffullnes.

This book has given me tools to overcome my anxious attachment style. She gives you many physical and mental ideas to do such as the inner nurturer and inner protector to help connect to your inner child. This is a great book and I highly recommend!

I'm learning about anxious attachment styles and want to take the steps in healing. I'm finding this book helpful in talking about the WHYs, but I'm finding the language and relationships modeled in this book to be non-inclusive. Example after example of cis/het couples, and stereotypical language as being tempted by the "bad boy." This book has solid reviews and solid material, but I am looking for something that includes inclusivity toward ALL people <3

I first listened to this as an audiobook and found Jessica's narration to be such a soothing relief. Even as a male, anxiously attached to a female partner, I could relate to her personal stories so much that I also bought the hardcover version so I could make my own notes on the pages. This book has truly changed my life, first by classifying a dynamic that has long impacted my relationship. And secondly by providing tangible steps to heal. I've since shared this book with my anxiously attached wife and she reports a much higher level of understanding and compassion for our dynamic

I started listening to the audiobook on Spotify, the author does the audio herself and it’s in such a soothing calm voice. Halfway through the book I knew I had to buy a hard copy. This book will be on my shelves forever. Already I feel validated, understood, and so many answers to my questions on why I keep picking the “wrong” person finally answered. This book has helped me get out of blaming myself, learning why I am the way I am, and why my exes are they way they are. I wish everyone would read this book. It gives you the tools to learn to be “selful”

My counselor recommended this book to me, and I am so happy she did! It is exactly what I needed. I recently discovered that I struggle with anxiety and even more recently learned about the concept of anxious attachment style. Dr. Baum did an excellent job with describing how an anxious attachment style could impact current relationships. She did an even better job conveying ways in which one could properly heal and learn to work towards a secure attachment style. I highly recommend this book!

This was a pretty good read and very informative!

This is an excellent book that discusses attachment theories in an easy to understand way with good examples. It also guides you through self discovery and healing especially with regards to close relationships. There is a free link to audio meditations by the author which complement the book and are also very good.

I have discovered this book as a new step in my painful way to getting better in my life, naturally following the generic and introductive books I have read on attachemnt theory. The book is not an easy read, definitely not to enjoy on the beach while holding a cocktail. It is a mix between theory and practice, forces you to look deep inside, find your ways and do the work. Even if painful here and there, I love the book and I can see the results already.

C'est un livre qui est tombé à pic lorsque je commençais une nouvelle relation. Me rendant bien compte de mon anxiousité maximale j'ai acheté ce livre avec l'espoir d'un soulagement. Je vous avou ce livre ne m'a pas TRANSFORME, je suis toujours anxieuse, et j'ai perdu mon partenaire qui était lui "avoidant". Mais au moins ce livre m'a permis de comprendre les dynamique intérieurs qui se jouaient en moi et de déculpabilisé. Il apporte aussi un soutient quotidien avec les méditations. Je pense que c'est un travail de longue durée pour guérir d'un trouble anxieu de l'attachement, et ce livre est parfait pour rentrer dans le sujet et se sentir moins folle et dépassée

I can't stop recommending reading this book to everyone but more importantly to those who feel they become teenagers when they start a new relationship. You will understand why by reading this book! It has helped me become more self-aware about my role in relationships, why I feel the way I feel, and why my relationships have gone the way they have gone so far. As an anxiously attached, I can't thank the author enough for being so helpful and loving in writing this book and offering such a fantastic tool. I felt she wrote the book directly to me.