Psychopath Free (Expanded Edition): Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People Kindle Edition

You have no peace. You feel you’ve gone mad. Once a level-headed individual, you now feel intense jealousy, insecurity, low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and a hyperactive need to cyberstalk the person in your life. You lie, walk on eggshells, or chase after this person, even if you don't want to. Something is clearly off, like they’re hiding something. What’s worse? They contradict themselves, say things that confuse you, and you react. And then they tell you how horrible you are for doing and feeling the very things that they wanted you to do and feel...“Before this person entered your life, you never behaved like this. After this person was gone from your life, you never behaved like this. So what does that tell you?”It tells me they’re the ones that brought out this side of you. You were in a relationship with someone who emotionally abuses their partners, friends and family members for fun. They dedicate their entire lives to this, and you’re far from being the only person they have done this to. There were people before you, and after you. Many of these people never find out who they’re dealing with, and they keep coming back to the same abuse and drama, only to be discarded and triangulated all over again. If you’re lucky, you’ll end the cycle once and for all, do your research, and move on with your life. And then you discover that — aha! — you’re not crazy, a stalker, bipolar, or whatever buzzword they use to describe you to their new targets. You’re not these things, because that’s what they are.You, my friend, had a close encounter with a narcissist/psychopath/sociopath. To put it simply, you were involved with someone with a Cluster B personality disorder. I won‘t go into details. Just read the book. Read the "30 red flags" on this product page, and that alone will give you invaluable information about the toxic person in your life. Fair warning: you'll want to keep reading.PSYCHOPATH FREE is the most relatable book I have read. I couldn’t have written it better! I literally went through all the things listed in this book. We all feel rather foolish after discovering the monster inside the good-guy mask, but don’t feel bad. How on earth would we know that people like this exist? But once you do, you can’t UNKNOW it, and it is up to you to help prevent this from happening again. You focus on yourself, on what makes you lovely and unique, and expand it. How? By setting strong boundaries and deal-breakers, and developing healthy relationships with lovely people. The journey won’t be easy, but there’s no time limit in self-care. Soon, you’ll restore your peace, become a stronger person, and thrive. As for the narcissistic psychopath — they are someone else’s problem now. And after that — yet another person’s problem. And another person’s problem. And then another one. You get the picture. It’s a never-ending cycle for them. Who has so much time to execute all that crap? They do. It's their oxygen. They can't NOT do it.That’s what set me free. The narcopath brought back the person before me. According to him, this person was the poster child for mental instability. And now she‘s back for a second (or third? fourth?) round of abuse. They covertly tried to throw their "reconnection" to my face, but I wasn't having it. I long suspected that this would happen — and it did. Like a true INFJ and super empath, I kept my distance because all kinds of warning signals blared back at me. This time, I was healthy enough to recognize the mind games, and was waiting for the shoe to drop. I didn't know about narc abuse at the time, but I was close to finding out. Real close. And then I did. After encountering mind-numbing mind games, lack of empathy, unmasking, a fresh new replacement (in addition to the recycled one), silent treatments, and overt abuse for months, I was no longer interested in whatever new torment he had devised for me, which apparently involved a “grand finale,” followed by another smear campaign and more triangulation. No, thanks, I’ll pass. I chose self-healing and my life goals. I chose me, because I love me. (Bad grammar? Who cares.)Mackenzie focuses on the chasing part of the abuse. His message? Don't chase after people. Narcs want you to chase them. The low- to mid-range ones (as explained by HG Tudor) tell you flat out that they want you to vie for their attention like some kind of dancing monkey. True relationships happen organically. No chasing necessary. No crazy love-bombing in the beginning. Just a slow and wonderful transition of getting to know that person.Love this book and how the author focuses on the target rather than the narcissistic psychopath. It is our healing journey, and it’s more important to focus on our side of things than on the narcopath’s. Downsides? Two things. The book uses the terms “psychopath,” “narcissist” and “sociopath” almost interchangeably. I see why he did this. His editor probably thought “psychopath” would be a more marketable and more recognizable term than narcissist. The author does a good job at differentiating these different Cluster B individuals, but not until way at the end of the book. The other downside? The author doesn’t address “hoovering.” Hoovering is when the narcopath tries to suck you back into their lives after you leave (or are discarded). Mackenzie brings it up sparingly, but he doesn't go into details, and he never addresses it as "hoovering" (at least not to my recollection). Hoovering happens in various forms. The narcopath will either send random texts, try to entice you with gifts, or contact you just to mess with your head, or send subliminal messages and remarks on Facebook or other social media. Even if their accounts are set to Friends Only, or they close or reopen them, they post the subliminals as "Public," and that's no random happenstance. They WANT you to see this and — YES! — it is a thinly veiled message to you. (This is why you should not look at their social media accounts. I'm serious, just don't. It'll bum you out, stifling your progress.) Their mission? To keep you unstable. That’s all they want. If you remain unstable, then you’ll never recover, and you won’t make the connection. What connection? That they’re the reason you're behaving in this strange and unprecedented way, that you’re not the crazy one. Once you have zero contact with these people, you’ll go back to your old self (only better), and you’ll do some digging, and this research will set you free. Don’t give them the opportunity to hoover you. They will try, and there's no time limit. I know of people who get hoovered after five, ten, fifteen, even twenty years later. It's mind-blowing. Don’t even tell them you’re in on their schemes. Waste no more time on them. Instead, learn more about this fascinating and toxic disorder, and turn a bad experience into a good one. Do what Jackson Mackenzie did, what so many life coaches are doing, and what I’m doing: help others recognize and fight this experience, and build a sizable platform for it. I give PSYCHOPATH FREE five solid Nitro Cold Brews, with extra salty caramel foam.

When you’re blindsided by the person you marry thinking he’s your life partner and things take a turn before you return from honeymoon, this book answers all the questions a healthy mind doesn’t think, believe or understand is possible. The closure to understanding without a direct explanation or apology you’ll never get from the abusive person. I wish divorce papers had the red flag check sheet to speed the process along.

I began working in branch sales for a Fortune 500 company in 2002 and met our division VP in 2003. He brought me on the National Account team and constantly flattered me and my sales performance. It worked. I sold $4 million dollars in new business when the company only projected a $1 million in new growth. I attributed my success to his being a "good boss" rather than my 14-hour work days. Then he promised me a promotion if I moved to our corporate headquarters in Memphis. I moved and soon after he told me he was in love with me, his wife was horrible to him and he couldn't work with me if I didn't return his feelings. What do you do when you're young, naive and your mentor and hero says this to you? If you're an empathetic person like me you try to save them because you think they saved you by giving you a career (what college graduate doesn't want to show their parents that?). Our (fake) love story lasted 10 years and it didn't end in the happy marriage and home life he promised, it ended with him draining me of all my money due to his alleged $150K debt from ID theft, abandoning me with his sick mother in Boston for a VP job in Torrance and beach front apartment in Palos Verdes and then he told police I stole money from his mother when she gave me money as her caregiver to buy her food and medicine and pay her bills while he was away. How did I feel after he destroyed my life? Not angry. Instead, I felt dazed or blamed myself. Why did he have me arrested when he dumped his responsibilities on me and I was only trying to help? What did I do wrong to make him stop loving me? How could he want sex on Friday (fortunately I was too tired after spending two months on renovations he ordered on his mother's house while he was away), dump me on Saturday (an hour after the final walk through with the contractors), scream at me on Sunday he's going to see to it I rot in prison for larceny, and then have me arrested on Monday, catch a plane back to CA for work, tell my crying mother he doesn't have to listen to her sh*t and that night goes on Facebook and likes football photos of my nephews on my brother's page? Furthermore, since my parents foiled his plans to see me rot in prison, he got a restraining order against me so I can't collect my pets, furniture, clothes and personal property for 6 months. Because the judge issued a no contact order with his mother, he left my little dogs with her so I can't call her to ask how they are doing or arrange a pick-up. I am amazed how well he knows how to use the law to continue to hurt me. I never knew justice could be perverted. That's what the soulless do. Fortunately, my parents got me out of jail after 17 days (I've only been before a judge for a speeding ticket so that should tell how good of a storyteller these psychopaths are) and took their suicidal daughter (who suffered a miscarriage her 3rd day in jail) home and immediately got me into counseling. I cried everyday for 3 months and when I broke down and called him he yelled at me how I ruined his life because he has to quit his job and go back to Boston to take care of his mother. That was it. I was a non-person to him. I couldn't understand how this was the same man who love bombed me in 2003 and told me for years he would hunt me down and kill me if I ever left him. I couldn't believe this was the real him. Through therapy I came to understand words like narcissist, sociopath and psychopath. I didn't want to believe he was one but then again the behaviors they engage in was like checklist on our relationship. I couldn't ignore the obvious. It was time to get educated. So far this is my favorite book on the subject. It discusses the psychopath but it also discusses the good hearts of their targets and how what feels like weakness because love is used against the victim it is actually our greatest strength towards recovery and finding the real love we want and deserve. I had to see the ugliness to understand what (TF?!) happened to me but I needed hope too and I think this book offers that. I also recommend yoga as part of this healing process. I'm doing it everyday and yes, my body is as weak (he hated it when I went to the gym because he'd accuse me of flirting with other men so I stopped going to please him instead of seeing how he was erasing my ID) as my spirit feels but being patient with my body as it gets stronger teaches me to be patient with my spirit too. Self care is so important in the recovery stage. Many people who love me want me to hurry up and heal and move on because they hate seeing me hurt but what it does is make me feel guilty because I can't. What my body teaches me is strength takes practice and time and that makes me feel okay that the spirit does do. This whole process hurts like hell and you will be a mess afterwards but this book is like a friend who gets it and walks you through the process. I highly recommend it.

I thought I knew what happened to me. My eyes were opened to a truth with more depth than I realized. Knowing and understanding how I was manipulated, along with some therapy, has given me my power back. If you have seen any red flags at all in your relationship please take the time to read this book. You will be grateful that you did.

just started and i’m surprised with how much this helps me understand and realize, of course not every single detail matches my situation but gives lots of insight to abuse and other things that happen in toxic relationships, my ex is in jail for beheading a kitten and i can’t tell if that or his behavior towards me was more cruel, this book is already hitting very close to home. recommend for the right audience.

This book is the ultimate guide to get you through one of the worst experiences of your life. It described my experience precisely. It absolutely nails it. Spot on! It’s a brilliant page turner, and I couldn’t put it down. And no, you are not crazy. You were manipulated and gaslighted. It wasn’t your fault. Please stop beating yourself up, you lovely soul. Even if you lashed out at your abuser, who made you believe that you deserved the abuse, and then you blamed yourself over and over again. You can and will heal, and this book is a fantastic place to start. I can’t recommend it enough. I wish all the love, peace and healing to you. You deserve it.

I was really hopeful that this book would help me move forward healthily, however it's written with incredible bias. I want freedom, this book is like a step by step guide on how to hate your abuser. That's not what I want, I want to love myself. I feel like the person who wrote this book has a journey to go on themselves as they are harbouring a lot of hate. It's also quite poorly wrote and kind of trivialised the issue of emotional abuse into a "point scoring game" when most people coming out of these kinds of relationships just want freedom.

It took years for me to recover from my breakup with my ex. I had an inkling before breaking up with him that he might have been a psychopath, but it was easier and gentler on my heart and soul to believe that he did love me and it was just a relationship that went wrong. My head believed he was a psychopath, my heart did not. Years later, the word psychopath came up again and I was reminded of my ex and the question - was he really a psychopath? Is it possible that all the love and adoration I believed he felt for me was all part of a ploy? When I came across this book soon after, I was eager to read it asap. I'm so glad I did. Now, in hindsight, it is clear to me that I was in a psychopathic relationship and his flattery and praise was part of the love bombing and idealisation. I can see how he manipulated and took advantage of me. All the pieces fit together and it is reassuring to know that this has a name and that I'm not the only person who has suffered from this kind of absurd experience, which is difficult to explain to others if they haven't experienced it. It brings me peace and clarity to confirm my suspicions and to stop trying to believe the illusion of true love that I wanted to believe, even so long after breaking up and healing. I'm grateful I found the courage to leave him before I suffered even more.This book is well-written, informative, kind and positive. It is reassuring to know that victims of emotional abuse, which is now what I can recognise it as, actually have many good qualities, and that is what made us susceptible in the first place. Comprehending what happened is tough and isolating. I can see how this book would be helpful to people who suspect they are in a relationship with a psychopath or are recovering post-breakup, and I can confirm that it is also helpful to someone who has already placed the experience (mainly) in the past.

I have spent the last 16 months soul searching and agonising over the events of the past.I read another book - it took me about 8 months, I picked it up and put it back down...maybe I wasn't ready?I picked this up and read it in two days.I could relate to every single page in the book. I felt like it was written about my ex, the whole thing.It all makes sense to me, and for the first time in 16 months I feel I have some vision through the thick fog that's been in front of me this whole time.All my feelings are validated. Everything suddenly makes sense!If you read one thing...one thing to start your journey to recovery, I can highly recommend this.

This book was recommended to me by a new Instagrammer who seems to have disappeared and I can't find her but omg this book was written about my life. From the beginning it describes my abusive ex to a T. It has shed a little light on how things manifested in the relationship or why he may have done certain things. Physco paths aren't just your usual Ted bundy etc, it can be any human who seems "normal". They don't have to be a serial killer or acting odd, it can be your typical human. I would recommend this book to anyone who has been in an toxic relationship. I'll never truly get answers from my ex but this book is the next best thing. If I could buy everyone this book I would because it all makes sense and is so well written. Definitely 5 stars for me

I have not been in such a relationship but my brother has. When she finally left he did not know whether he was on foot or horseback, he was in such turmoil. I spent a long time searching for something I thought could help him and then I found this book. Out of interest, and trying to understand what he had gone through, I started to read it. I told him about it and he couldn't wait for me to finish it (all of two days!) so immediately ordered his own copy. I had a phone call from him to say he couldn't put it down until he'd read it. He said the book could have been written about her and that he finally felt he had some answers to his questions......Thankfully that was the start of his healing journey and, although he still has a long way to go, this book was pivotal to that process.