You're Not Enough (And That's Okay): Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love

A must read! Our culture is more self-focused than ever before in history, and more depressed and anxious than ever before in history. This book highlights the correlation between those two things, and practical ways to overcome them.

This book was such a blessing to me. Read it at a point in my life where I was desperately running back to Jesus. This book really helped open my eyes to how deep I had fell into the toxic self love culture and how deep a hold it had on me and the vast gap it was spreading between me and Jesus. Sighting the sources where I can go to my Bible and see the words Jesus spoke was so appreciated! I have loved both Allie's books and her podcast Relatable is just so refreshing. 10/10 recommend this book!

I have been listening to Allie (the author) for a couple years now, shortly before she started her podcast: ‘Relatable.’ She is wise beyond her years, obviously a wonderful trait (of many) that God has generously blessed her with.Coming from someone who used to be into all the self-love stuff, and eventually finding out that all the “love” and acceptance that I could muster up for myself wasn’t sufficient.. I came to the end of myself and realized exactly who God was in my life.That being said, this book is close to my heart, and so.. relatable. See what I did there? Anyways.. the title is simple, kind of vague, and doesn’t seem very deep in and of itself.. but the book is packed with profound wisdom. “You are not enough,” is an unnatural and uncomfortable statement in our society (I’m speaking for North America, where I reside).But it’s not self-defeating to embrace the reality of “not enoughness,” on the contrary, it is to constantly strive unsuccessfully to be enough when you’re just not. And that’s okay. Allie beautifully, with refreshing common sense, points the reader to Christ throughout each chapter.This is a powerful and important message for people today. We are not meant to depend so heavily on only ourselves; the fulfillment we seek comes from God.. and in Him alone do we find truth and worth.Even if you can’t relate as far as religion and politics go, this book provides no nonsense perspectives, and real life stories that cut through the smoke and façade of cultural lies we’ve all heard/believed growing up.. but deep down knew (the lies) don’t make sense.The realness and honesty from Allie in her book will touch you, and challenge you, as well as help you realize that perhaps you’re not crazy for feeling like something isn’t adding up.. once you’ve tried it all and nothing really works.Try this.. enjoy and share!

This was such a good read. I highly recommend, these are words every woman needs to hear.

I've listened to Allie Stuckey's podcast Relatable for a year and a half, so I was pumped for her book. At first I didn't know how much help it would be to me, considering that I'm not one to fall for the self-love message our culture promotes. I thought I might not be surprised by the message in her book, but I was wrong. I finally picked it up over New Years and couldn't put it down once I started it. Like the name of her podcast infers, Allie is so relatable in her tone. It feels like I'm getting to know her over coffee because of her down-to-earth, understanding tone. I loved learning more about Allie through the books, since she doesn't share too, too much personal information on social media. Though I certainly felt familiar with all of Allie's views towards the prevalent lies from mommy blogger culture and instagram influencers, it was so helpful for me being able to categorize those cultural lies according to the 5 chapters of her book. Allie'a analysis reminded me of why those "truths" are false and that most importantly, they are hurtful because they distort the gospel. Allie's book encouraged me in my faith and renewed my confidence in the Christian, theologically conservative worldview I hold, since more importantly than anything, it reflects Christ and his gospel! Allie's quick-witted, bright, relatable, and wise exposition shows that God is at the center rather than ourselves! God is good!!

I wish the book was longer. This was a refreshing read and a must read, especially for young Christian women.

This book was so good! The idea of self-love is penetrating the church. I have found myself thinking that maybe I am the crazy one, or I am just negative. I agree wholeheartedly with every point she made! It was a super easy read, I read it in 2 days. I saw a previous review that criticized that she did not go into enough detail. She could have used more Scripture than she did, but in my opinion, it was enough to make it a quick read that could easily be finished.

I am a student pastor----have been for over a decade--and have seen the phrase "love yourself" or "you are enough" more times than I can count. Unfortunately, it has mostly been on Instagram posts from well-meaning Christian young women.This book is incredibly needed for this generation. Stuckey does a great job fleshing out her perspective, utilizing Scripture and culturally relevant examples. On a related note, I will say that her references will be seen by some to be a backhanded effort to take stabs at political agendas and social justice warriors (especially given the fact that her day job does involve some of this with her ties to TheBlaze). However, it was clear to me that she was merely utilizing the culture of our day to point out the unbiblical and unsustainable perspective of the "love yourself" philosophy. Taken with an open mind, one will see she does an excellent job exposing the lies, promoting truth, and doing so biblically.It is a quick and easy read. Honestly I would say my review would be more accurately reflected as a 4.5 star mark due to my personal preference that she include more in-depth insight. However, I believe it is obvious she understands the attention span of most readers as she gets to the point fairly quickly without much fluff.Excellent book. Certainly recommended.